It needs hard work and nourishment. Just never stop and continue to hope.
Marriage is the greatest covenant of all. An opportunity to serve someone without the hope to get the same service unless pursued otherwise.
- It's a continuous process of learning and knowing each other---- It's not perfect but it's worth every laughter, tears, mistakes and lessons.
- It's our choices in life that will make us better and it's our faith that leads us to a point were emotions can easily be trampled into small pieces.
"As humans, we are capable of hurting ourselves, hurting others, making others laugh, inspire them, encourage them and doing it to ourselves as well."
Our faith can move mountains.
- In marriage, our faith in Christ is our greatest foundation and it can move even the deeply rooted mountains in us--- when your love is not enough anymore, His love will always be there to compensate.
- It's when its hardest to share it that His love overflows the best. He can move our mountain and turn our hate to love, our sadness to happiness, our turmoil to peace, our distrust to trust.
"Marriage is an amazing thing even when it's not amazing all the time, and it doesn't have to be."
- What makes it amazing is not marriage but Christ in You. Your decision to keep loving when loving is hard, to care when caring is hard, to accept the unacceptable to cherish the good and to always choose to forgive even without an apology.
- Marriage works best when both makes God the center of it all--- it works when at least one remains faithful to His word. And when the other is slacking in his journey, the other is there to encourage and pray. When the other is weak, one is there to make the other strong---it's team work... and the more you try when it's hardest to try, the more for it to work.
- The secret to a wonderful marriage is Christ but a successful marriage greatly depends on two couple who prays and believes that if someone 2,000 years ago can forgive, who are we not to?
"Forgiveness is constant. A choice that every couple should choose to do--- or every individual should choose. Because when it's freely given, the unimaginable peace from above is felt. It's beyond words---- It's God's peace."
You don't need any sympathy nor pity. You need acceptance.
Looking back, You're upset. Looking forward You're scared. Looking at the present, You're empty. Where should you look? You actually know where-- UP there. But why is it so difficult to look up when you're down.
Why is it hard to be positive and hopeful. You've tried the hardest to endure every hurt, to submit to every struggle, to fight every battle but seems to you it's not enough.
Scared of words? You weren't til you realized that your only hope left without saying goodbye is the hope you have for someone you look up to, you cared for, you love, you respect, you look forward to spending your life with--- The hope that one day, you can prove them wrong of an assumption that Love only exist in fairy tale, that no man is faithful, that no man is loyal, that no man is willing to give up his life for the woman he loves.
It wont be easy and it will definitely take a lot of sacrifices on your part but does it have to be always one way? Don't get me wrong--- It's an honor to serve but when service isn't appreciated, it feels like service without benefit. The benefit to be loved and treated like you are needed not wanted.
We all have our hopes, dreams but when you're dreaming and hoping alone--- when you're hopes are too blurry to see, when love is too much to ask for, when dreams are impossible to reach and when love couldn't be define by mere words alone.
Then you tell yourself, is it really worth fighting for? Is really worth caring for? Is it really worth staying when every mistakes, you have to always say I'm lacking, It's my fault, It's me. Physically, you've been hurt but mentally, you are draining, spiritually you are still hopeful that one day it will change for the better. When we expect too much, we fail greatest-- when we hope the least, we still fail strongest-- where should you stand? When you know you're only hope is Christ. When the other wants it and the other doesn't, when the other is hungry to hear it and the other is faithless to believe or let's just say, didn't really have that amazing feeling of security in Christ.
Great at lip service but lack in action--- appreciate some gestures but failing in prayer. When you feel like everything is breaking apart but still believe that enduring until the end of time is the best thing to do.
You can endure the physical pain, the emotional burden but the spiritual part--- It's hard. Jesus is real and our only job is to take Him seriously--- not through our words, our ability to go to church, to tithe, nor help others but our commitment to read his word, to grow together in prayer, to nurture each other in faith--- Seeking His Kingdom first.
You don't mind if you're not needed anymore as long as Jesus is needed first then everything follows. A domino effect that you've always believe to happen with a little poke! Yes, a poke coupled with faith and the assurance that He is ready to turn things around in your life---- JUST CALL HIS NAME.
It's been 5 months now since I got engaged and we have finish most of the things needed for the Big Day. I should say I am blessed enough to have parent's in law who are very generous to help us out with the expenses and all the people who shared their resources.
Now that we have 3 weeks before the wedding, it's even more harder because you aren't only thinking of the wedding but the marriage by itself. Just thinking of living together, sharing one house together, one toilet, one bed and mostly everything in 3 weeks, it's scary but at the same time a challenge that we both have to make and it will take a lot of effort for both of us--- having brought up in different homes, different environment, different background, different values, different beliefs, different routine-- However, as long as we hold on to the promises of God and not our own capability, it'll will work just great.
I am excited for the marriage but to be honest, I am so scared. I am scared of what I cannot and what I am not. it's like having to remind myself that life will not be about me anymore but about us. It can be about just what I want, but what we both want and what we both need. To understand such is to first understand the value of Christ in my life--- to value dying oneself for the service and love for others.. it's always sacrificial and as a human, I can't make it, I can't do it--- I would be a hypocrite if I will say I can because if I do, we wouldn't make it this far to our engagement.
I am weak in my capability to be patient, to love.. to care but through God's grace----all my weaknesses turns into strength and all the more for me to strive hard to seek for God's presence everyday.
I'm signing up to a BIG commitment in my life and it will be amazing if we both try in a godly perspective. I'm counting the days until I do and I pray that when we say our vows to each other, it won't be centered to both of us but the God we are serving---it is only through Christ that we can survive for the next 50 or 60 years of marriage and I trust Him in every direction and purpose.
When there is grace, there's no race.
Tears slowly dripping down my face. I said YES.
Who would have thought that I am now slowly opening a new chapter of my life. Someone told me before, I can't be loved truly by a man. That marriage is a joke. That marriage are only for the deserving.
Looking back to all what was said and heard, I think and say, You're wrong. Indeed, when you think of marriage it's something that you don't want to regret. Something that is approved by the family and something that most especially offered to the Lord. Before, when I thought of marriage, it's a fairy tale, an end to a story, or a start of a chapter but now when I am embarking this journey, it's not what I thought it was. It's not fairy tale, nor a happy ever after. It's not even a story of a book that I will open but a beginning of a sacrifice. It's forgetting myself and thinking of others. It's when you think less about yourself and it's when you compromise even the things that you don't want to compromise. It's like surrendering without defeat. That's marriage.
When you're single and you think of marriage, all you can think about is happiness and the cloud nine idea of it but when you are actually in the process of jumping to this new beginning, it's overwhelming and scary. It's like an ocean full of unknown, deep, dark and wide. All you can see is the vastness of it but you will never see the other side of it. I'm excited of the new beginning but at the same time, I'm in need of people to encourage me that it's not scary and it's not dangerous. I'm in need of a mother who can tell me it's okay to surrender. I'm in need of a father who can tell me it's okay to fight and push more. I am in need of a friend who can tell me, it's okay to risk because they will be there. I'm in need of a God who always keep His promises.
See, in my teenage years I perceived marriage as a celebration but now I am trudging it myself, it's not only a celebration but an endless battle to fight for. It's not always victorious as a couple but if you add ONE in the midst of every battle, it will be an easier trip home. You may be defeated but you are not alone.
As I slowly walk this adult reality as they say, I can totally say to myself too. It's hard to be an adult. Gladly, my auntie was right all the while. I was not matured enough before because now I learned, sometimes immaturity can be an advantage if you want to live a life outside reality.
I'm not scared of marriage. I am just overwhelmed on the idea of it. Especially now that I am financially not ready for this, I feel like I have to just humble myself and trust that everything will work out just fine. People have asked me, why am I getting married and my answer was, because I feel that I'm ready but you know what, how ready is ready enough? Emotionally? Mentally? Financially? These are all factors that everyone should think before they would even leap a new beginning. So, am I really ready? Well, I can't really give the exact feeling and answer to that question but here's one thing I'm sure about.
When you know He's the one. You just know.
